Reality TV’s Tami Roman:  The Truth about What You Say and How You Say it.

So I did this interview with actress and personality Tami Roman who we all know from Reality TV. She and I have some history because I've interviewed her in the past. It’s no secret that Tami has a very strong and compelling personality, but there is also more to her than what meets the eye. I wanted to share with my audience the Tami and met.

I recalled how when I first interviewed her, she shared a side of herself that I had never seen before. Recently she's been more public and transparent about her spiritual journey and her vulnerability. Beyond all of the hardness, conflict and fighting that you seen her display on television, like most of us, there are layers to her personality and much more than what meets the eye.

I am a big believer that if you show me a person who comes across as really hard or guarded, that under the hard exterior is a person who has an extremely soft and generous heart. Often people who appear to be the hardest are the ones trying to protect others from seeing just how vulnerable, how sensitive they actually are. Unfortunately, how they come across and/or communicate can keep them from being understood. In my discussion with Tami, we discussed the effectiveness of, not just what you say; but, how you say it, which of course is something she’s very familiar with.

As you will hear in the podcast, I share part of my testimony with Tami, which is something I coach women about regarding communication-style. Specifically, for women of power or influence, we need to learn how to diversify our communication portfolio in order to be effective. Just because you’re right about something, or just because you’re sharing your truth, it does not negate the need to find the right approach. How we communicate is as important as what we communicate; because you can be very loud, and very clear, but if your approach is wrong or hard to be received by the listener no one will hear you, they will tune you out.

Is it more important to be right or is it more important to be effective?

Check out this #Truthtelling podcast with Tami. Tell me how you feel about her thoughts on sharing truth and what are your thoughts about what I had to say regarding approach. I look forward to your feedback as we all work to evolve with what we say and how we say it.